Nope, I’ve never had things fully hang during a cluster upgrade, but you need to make sure that all servers in the cluster are running the update at the same time, otherwise the servers will wait until all others are on the same version.
Setting up incus (6.0.1-1~bpo12+1) ...
incus-user.service is a disabled or a static unit not running, not starting it.
Progress: [ 94%] [#############################################################################################################################################################...........]
Eventually it finished and I could reboot the server. This happens when upgrading from incus 6.0.0 to 6.0.1 in Debian 12 using the backported incus package.